Be Happier, Healthier, and More Successful by Giving Compliments | Catherine Mattiske

Mar 13 / Catherine Mattiske

The power of compliments

Think about the last time someone gave you a compliment. How did it make you feel? Chances are, it made you feel pretty good. Now, think about the last time you gave someone a compliment. Again, how did that make you feel? If you're like most people, giving a compliment probably made you feel just as good as receiving one.

That's because compliments are powerful. Compliments have the power to connect. Compliments have the ability to make people feel happy, appreciated, and valued. And when people feel happy, comfortable, appreciated, respected, loved, and valued, they're more likely to be successful in all areas of their lives.

The Science of Compliments

There's science to back up the assertion that compliments can make you happier and more successful. Studies have shown that compliments increase levels of oxytocin, also known as the "love hormone." Oxytocin is associated with happiness, stress relief, and even pain relief. Oxytocin is also thought to promote bonding and trust between people.

In addition to making us feel good on an emotional level, compliments also have the power to increase our motivation and productivity levels. That's because when we receive compliments, our brains release dopamine—a chemical that's associated with pleasure and reward. Dopamine has been shown to increase levels of focus and concentration. It's also thought to play a role in memory formation and retrieval.

The Impact of a Compliment – Connection

When you pay someone a compliment, it helps to build a better connection because it shows that you are interested in them and care about their well-being. It also makes the other person feel good about themselves, which can lead to more positive interactions between the two of you. Ultimately, paying someone a compliment can help create a strong foundation for a lasting friendship, business relationship, or affiliation.

Paying someone a compliment usually makes them feel good. It can make the person feel appreciated and boost their self-esteem. Compliments can also make the recipient feel happy and more positive about themselves, which can lead to them having a better day overall. And, when that happens, chances are you'll feel better as well!

4 Tips on Giving Compliments

Now that we know how powerful compliments can be, let's talk about how we can start giving them more often.

1. First and foremost, be sincere

If your compliment doesn't come from a place of sincerity, the recipient will be able to tell, and it will do more harm than good. When you give a compliment, make sure it's something that you actually mean.

2. second, try to be specific when giving a compliment

For example, instead of saying "Great job!" try something like "I really appreciate the hard work you put into this project – especially when you delivered the reports on time." A specific compliment shows that you're genuinely paying attention and that you value the other person's efforts.

3. thirdly, don't overdo it with the compliments

A few genuine compliments are usually better than a bunch of insincere ones. Too many compliments can also make you seem insincere or even desperate.

4. finally, avoid empty flattery

Empty flattery is when you give someone a compliment simply for the sake of giving them a compliment with no real meaning behind it. For example, "You're so beautiful!" is an empty flattery. Not only is empty flattery insincere, but it can also make the recipient feel uncomfortable or even insulted. Instead be specific, for example "I love your new haircut!" or "the color lavender looks great on you!"

How does the Inner Genius Profile and Toolkit Help With Connections?

The Inner Genius Profile and tools help with connection because it provides a framework for understanding yourself and others. Unlocking your Inner Genius helps you to communicate more effectively and to create deeper connections with others. The profile can help you to learn more about yourself, your Genius Zone, and how you can best connect with others. The tools can help you to supercharge your communication and influence others in a positive way, and to create more meaningful relationships.


Paying compliments is a great way to show appreciation and build rapport with others. Just be sure to do it genuinely, specifically, and sincerely. Next time you're feeling low or struggling with something at work or home, try giving someone a sincere compliment—you may just find yourself feeling happier and more successful as a result!

About Catherine

About Catherine mattiske

Catherine Mattiske, best known for creating ID9 Intelligent Design and the Genius Quotient (GQ), is a leading light in the corporate learning and team-building industries. She regularly works with large and small organizations to help team members better understand one another while effectively collaborating and boosting individual and team morale and productivity in the workplace.

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